Surely the zen of perpetual “resting bitch face” towards men is one of the selling points of being a nun?

Sometimes when I’m peeling potatoes, I will peel more aggressively than even the version on the left, because sometimes I want the potatoes to look pretty.

Gosh, this is horrifying. I can only assume that was your intention, so congrats if so. Is this a real bird? Surely not

My trick to coping with that has been to seek out rooms or contexts in which I’m the stupid one, relatively speaking. I sometimes struggle with insecurity when doing this (especially as a bright kid who was “a big fish in a small pond”), but I never feel happier than when I’m learning from someone knowledgeable and enthusiastic about their little weird slice of the world.

Congrats! It feels incredible when a " ¯\_ (ツ)_/¯ worth a try!" repair turns out well; I can practically feel your astonished jubilance through the screen.

I’ve got to the point where I have enough experience fixing things that I feel completely confident in my ability to have an initial look at the problem (possibly opening the device), and to know whether I’m likely to break things worse by dabbling. Sometimes this means immediately closing up the device, but increasingly often I feel comfortable taking a crack at the problem, and sometimes it even works!

At one point, when I was a baby still in my mother’s womb, I had cells in between my fingers. Had I been born like that, I would have had webbed fingers. I sometimes feel sorry for those cells: they were instructed to undergo controlled cell death so that I could have fingers. I’m glad that cells can’t think l, but even still, I wish that I could explain, to these cells that I never knew as my own, that their sacrifice was worthwhile, because they died in service to me, an organism far more complex than any cell or tissue could be alone.

I’m glad that these cells can’t feel (at least in a way that I can understand), because I know that my explanation would not be enough for them: I know this because for most of my life, I have understood that people like us are acceptable sacrifices on the altar on the free market., and that feels terrible. I rage at being told that my suffering is worth it, for the Greater Good, because that posits that our lives aren’t considered to be Good enough to be worth acknowledging beyond our instrumental value.

When I think about the cells that used to exist between my fingers, there’s a silly part of me that even feels guilty that they couldn’t consent to the whole ordeal, but I suppose my compassion for them is part of that “greater good” they died for. I know that the free market feels no such guilt at throwing humans into the meat grinder, because it is closer to being a clump of mindless, cancerous cells than it is to a person. And yet, as you say, we’re supposed to celebrate “innovations” — to celebrate ever more rapid “growth” that comes at the expense of people’s lives? It’s disgusting.

Incredible. I don’t know enough Prolog to be able to follow it very well, but this is truly what the internet was made for

This, a thousand times. Also echoing what someone below said that a physiotherapist may be best, but in my country, the doctor refers to a PT.

The reason why getting proper medical input is important is because often back pain arises because of long standing, complex imbalances e.g. I had a weak core, which caused my legs to lock in a way that sort of compensated, which caused me to have an odd gait and to fall lots. Generally improving your strength was a good step, but if you’re experiencing pain like this, you may need help in identifying any underlying weaknesses.

Especially because injuries don’t just come from heavy or intensive exercise. I knew someone who had upper back pain that likely stemmed from poor posture. They identified the muscles that were painful and started doing stretches to that area. Even though it was only light intensity stretching they were doing, they were inadvertently exacerbating the root problem, which they didn’t learn until they had to be seen by a doctor urgently.

I don’t think duplicate link protection is what I mean, unless I’m misunderstanding how that feature works. I.e. if I had bookmarks “example.com/a” , “example.com/b”, these are duplicates even though they’re at the same site. But if I visit the page “example.com/c” and I went to go bookmark it, I would like to be able to see a thing that says '"from this site, you have also bookmarked: “example.com/a” , “example.com/b”.

I don’t imagine this is possible. I was probably going to make something to give me that functionality at some point, because I haven’t seen anyone having the same problem as me.

I have a question which may turn out to be a feature request

The question: How easy would it be to use Linkwarden to check whether I have already bookmarked something from the site I’m currently on? To clarify why I’m asking this, I have been generally trying to be more mindful in what media I consume, which means the things I enjoy reading are fragmented pieces that I may stumble upon through word of mouth.

For example, I read post ‘a’ on blog ‘A’ and I enjoy it so much that I bookmark it (‘Aa’) so I can find it for later sharing. Many months later, I am linked to post ‘b’ on site ‘A’, but I don’t remember whether I have been to this site before, and knowing that I had previously enjoyed post Aa may prompt me to actually read post Ab (or properly set aside for later)

Native Firefox bookmarks don’t do this, I know that much. It’s something I’ve been meaning to figure out how to solve, because one of the delightful, if somewhat overwhelming parts about floating on the ‘small web’, is the trust that builds up gradually after seeing sometime put out consistently good coverage

Probably smart, because I’m already pretty smart and the prospect of giving up what I already have seems scary.

Plus, I’ve lived most of my life thinking I was repulsively ugly; part of overcoming that anxiety involved understanding that “you can be the juiciest, ripest peach in the world, but some people just don’t like peaches”. If there’s anything I’ve learned from that, it’s understanding that attractiveness is even harder to “objectively” quantify than intelligence

My understanding is that it’s not necessarily porn addiction that causes this, but a particular style of masturbation that some people refer to as “death grip”. Source: a friend of mine who used to masturbate every night before bed to sleep better, but this began causing issues with his partner due to ED. He eventually solved it by using a different grip while masturbating.

In short, if you feel like you’ve come away from this conversation with things to reflect on, then that’s great and I’m glad about that. However, “porn addiction”, as a term, describes a whole bundle of stuff that is still pretty poorly understood, because it can be hard to discern between symptoms and causes

“Fight me if you want, I’m sick in bed and have time.”

I’m also sick and in bed, and this is such an appealing offer of a sparring match, but alas, I’ve never used Gnome

Your explanation is good and thorough.

I always struggle to know when to use the square brackets. The straightforward answer is to just quote directly where possible. But especially in interviews, someone’s answer may be jumbly, so the most honourable thing to do may be to use square brackets to make it easier for the reader to understand the speaker’s point, but you’re not being misleading.

For example, maybe this interviewee said something like “in the future, it — we might come to see that game development, and games overall, will end up turning out to be player-driven”, which could be straightforwardly shortened to what we see in the screenshot: “in the future, it [will be] player driven”. Square brackets, in the hands of a skilled journalist, can be used to manipulate a narrative through selectively quoting people, but they can also represent a speaker’s point far more authentically and cogently than the literal words.

"in the future, it will be player-driven

I don’t think your evening is pathetic. I’ve been in similar circumstances, and we do what we must to get by. I respect your pragmatic resilience, and your wisdom in your priorities; forcing yourself to be around drunken strangers because of feeling an obligation to celebrate with everyone else would be far more pathetic than your actual plans

That being said, it sounds like you’re not particularly happy with your life circumstances right now — it sounds like you’re surviving more than you’re living. On that note, I sincerely wish you the best for the coming year. Maybe you’ll never find this an occasion worth celebrating, but I hope you have splashes of happiness across the year, where you can enjoy the things you care about.

That same blind hope I expressed towards you is how I’m surviving tonight; it has been a pretty terrible year for me, and I’m trying not to reflect too hard on it all, nor think too hard about planning the future. I’m just grasping onto a desperate hope that maybe this time, next year, I’ll have more things to reflect on fondly.

Good luck in the year ahead, to anyone who is reading this. It never feels like it, but simply surviving is a hell of an achievement, and I’m cheering for you from the distance, because you deserve good things.

That’s exactly my point, it’s a ridiculous question to ask. Like, there are so many bad outcomes to asking it.

That was my hope, but also the joke was basically “hey, you know that thing that annoys you? Well I’m pretending to do it”, and whether that’s an assholish thing to do depends on whether the joke lands.

Oh yeah, I’m pretty worried about that from what I’ve seen in biochemistry undergraduate students. I was already concerned about how little structured support in writing science students receive, and I’m seeing a lot of over reliance on chatGPT.

With emails and the like, I find that I struggle with the pressure of a blank page/screen, so rewriting a mediocre draft is immensely helpful, but that strategy is only viable if you’re prepared to go in and do some heavy editing. If it were a case of people honing their editing skills, then that might not be so bad, but I have been seeing lots of output that has the unmistakable chatGPT tone.

In short, I think it is definitely “grumpy old man” thinking, but that doesn’t mean it’s not valid (I say this as someone who is probably too young to be a grumpy old crone yet)

That’s really neat, thanks for sharing that example.

In my field (biochemistry), there are also quite a few truly awesome use cases for LLMs and other machine learning stuff, but I have been dismayed by how the hype train on AI stuff has been working. Mainly, I just worry that the overhyped nonsense will drown out the legitimately useful stuff, and that the useful stuff may struggle to get coverage/funding once the hype has burnt everyone out.

Especially because I can type quite quickly. Though upon reflection, I only do this when I know it won’t do loads of different pings (One friend has their Facebook messages on silent, for example, so I use that for low priority, stream of thought messages )

(Apologies for replying to you via multiple messages. I hope you find it more humourous than annoying)