I have been depressed in the past and it took me 10 years of spiraling downward till i hit rock bottom somehow I bounced back up and started practicing better personal care(self love) by excercising more and going out and engaging in conversation with strangers (without putting any expectations of somthing more on them or myself). Eventually self care became easier and I stopped looking for the “why i am” of it all and focused i on the “how i can”. Im not perfect and depression is still there in the background but I don’t have to give those feelings all my time.
I hope it doesn’t take you 10 years. It could take longer. Life isn’t easy. It’s even harder when you don’t love yourself, and loving yourself is hard to learn from parents who don’t love themselves. Break the cycle your progenitors are trapped in. Save yourself.
There is a lot of comments faulting society. But the individuals need to take personal accountability. Choosing to live online is what I see as the crux of this issue. This comes from personal experience of living online and being loney and miserable untill i started getting out and meeting people. This lonelyness “epedemic” is people not managing their screen time.