I don’t think there’s an answer here. I feel like one of the hardest frustrations in life is not being able to MAKE those we care about get help. Sometimes it takes hitting rock bottom. Sometimes it takes hitting rock bottom multiple times. Remember to take care of yourself. Sometimes we need to set boundaries and sometimes seeing those boundaries can be painful. Good luck.
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