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  • You make very good points also to add women in online spaces have incentives to pretend to be male or be ambiguous and not bring attention that they are women online to reduce the harassment they get. I’m pulling numbers out of the air but I feel 10% the internet that is male are assholes or children that don’t have any social skills yet and the other 90% get lumped in with them because we don’t reach out at all as to not come off as creeps like the other 10%. So you don’t hear about the polite respectful ones.

    My hypothesis for this comes from the fact that most men I meet in real life are polite social people that respect women with about 10% being weird assholes. I also don’t blame women being guarded of all men as that 10% are true nightmare. I mean if there was a 10% chance a strange man you meet out in public was going to be Jason Voorhees. I would mace every man that came up to me as well. That’s how those assholes ruin it for everyone. Well except the grifrers that make it worse that is.

    Also I’m married but we met online before tinder broke dating sites. So take what I say with a grain of salt just from an old man that sees the struggle of young people of all genders go through and I have empathy for them.



  • lordnikon@lemmy.worldtoAsklemmy@lemmy.mlHow to get past this
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    Honestly I think i posted this before but it all came about when I explained even if I wanted to I couldn’t. Like I broke down the math of my income and savings and how much her care will cost. Had to explain the world her and her parents left us with nothing they were grifted and the pay gap from 1970 broke the game. Her Brain kind of broke and she got real quiet and has not brought up that i owe her anything since.


  • I don’t know if this helps but i had a similar experience. My mother would bring it up all the time. It was many years after I had just given up the guilt of it. It finally came out. She was afraid noone would take care of her. Deep down she’s knew she never did anything to help me and now that she was losing her independence in her age. She is desperate to believe she has leverage to make sure i will take care of her when she’s unable to. It’s sad and pathetic but once it came to light my anger turned to pity.


  • Started on Digg moved to reddit when Digg shot itself in the foot moved to lemmy when reddit shot itself in the foot. I will say I post and comment way more on here. Than I ever did on digg and reddit combined. This place feels more like old school forms than social media. Where people come out of the woodwork to be jerks. Ether because your views don’t match theirs or you get some spelling or grammar that’s not 100% perfect vs just engaging with your ideas for a constructive discussion. I can’t tell how many times I have come back to a reply and gone " you make a good point." on lemmy.





  • While I totally agree i also think that tool is like the machine gun in world war 1. We had guns before but it supercharged the rate in which the people in power inflict human misery. It’s like web 1.0 was like general relativity. Intelligent people just working for the further understanding of their world. Web 2 was the atom bomb taking that technology and using it to make carnage. Where it had the potential to just light everyone’s home.