Always remember there is someone much cheaper than you who will do a much worse job, but be more arrogant about it

Got assassin’s creed mirage. Was a decent game. For the $20 sale price I mean. Wouldn’t spend more than that

Okay no one has said this, but feel you. When I was younger I was so happy my family thought I was smart and leaned into it. It’s great, they want something installed, they want advice, it works. Then they get greedy, they stop respecting my time, I get chastised for not answering my phone because they HAVE to get into their email RIGHT NOW.

So, if you’re feeling all of this, it may be time to start setting boundaries. Some helpful things:

Mom, if you want to ask for my help then you can’t just undo my help right after I leave. If you want my help, you will use what I set up, you will use this password manager and you will put in the effort to learn it. I offer these services for free, Geek Squad would charge you $200 for this service alone. If you can’t do it that’s fine, but then you can go to them for help.

I understand that it’s not working right now but I’m not a 24/7 service. I can help you in <reasonable time frame>.

At some point some older people just stop trying to learn anything new. I also worked geek squad, which is where I saw this first hand. Some very very basic problem solving and just the will to learn something new will take them 90% of the way, but most have lost those basic skills. For those, well, politely you have to tell them that they have to rely on others, and that’s why geek squad exists.

A lot of geeks laugh at the $200 price tag. That’s ridiculous! I could do that in 10 minutes! Correct! The fix is usually the easiest part of the job. That’s why there’s only 1 or 2 actual repair techs per best buy, but 10 or more desk agents who just sit and listen to the elderly talk about how much they hate computers and refuse to learn it.

Until you have a bad config as the other commenter pointed out and miss a critical email like an interview or medical item

Stayed in my home town, commute to the small city 30 minutes away working as an insurance agent. Married, appears to have kids. Super for them. It sounds like my nightmare, I moved 2000 miles away and work in tech, but I guess his life sounds fun.

We’ve all seen the “I’m very smart” people who come to social media, use random vocabulary vomit because they want to sound smart, and it happens here a lot. I agree with you, that’s great if you can, and I won’t say you “have to dumb yourself down”, but often they do it to sound smart and want to feel superior because they think most people understand.

Actually a lot of people do understand them, they’re just eye rolling at how pretentious they’re being.

There’s a balance. After all why use many word when some word do trick?

Rule one of self hosting. Do not self host your own email. Only pain will you find.

You of course can, but there are so many additional hoops you have to jump through. I use my main domain for my email, but proton is one of the few subscriptions I happily pay for

Whenever I see something like this I just laugh because you’re exactly right. Something isn’t being handled properly and their dev team just proved they don’t know how to do some basic handling. Every API library in JS and restful API I know of handle special characters. If they wanted they could base64 encode it over the wire. Then you’re exactly right, if the database “can’t handle it” more than likely it’s a home spun database connection where they’re serializing it themselves (which even then this is solvable), but even then that proves that they make poor choices.

Dated a girl who had a boyfriend. I was her “secret boyfriend” and she always told me that she was going to leave him, just need to find the right time, just another week, you’ll see babe. The surprising thing is that it was sexual, it wasn’t a friendzone thing.

She was my first and I stupidly thought it was something special. Nope, she just liked having the attention and had a fair amount of damage. She eventually did leave him, I was elated, and then a month later she cheated on me.

There’s no secret bf/gf folks, if she doesn’t want to tell her friends it’s a massive red flag for you, just move onto someone who respects you

Not to derail this, but I think a lot about our zoning and residential housing now and how it killed these exact things. Your neighborhood is now only people in the same economic bracket as you. New builds only make bland open areas with nothing to do, and they’re built so far out that they’re essentially unwalkable. Then there’s only one exit or entrance so even if there is a city park nearby it’s minimum 20 minutes just to walk to the entrance of the residential zone. Then add on that any teens together are hooligans and Ms Jansen will call the police on them and 40 years of fear mongering has lead us to no kids can be unsupervised

Personally I suggest k3s, setting up a test cluster and playing with it. For volume management I use longhorn. It’s a HUGE learning curve, but it’s officially something companies will shell out big money for too if you’re willing to learn it. Soup to nuts from setting up test cluster and playing with it all the way to all of my services running was about 4 months of tinkering for me- but I’ll never go back

Exactly. Hell 50 bucks you can get a decent SSD. Just grab something, have all of your drives hosted via NFS, but then you aren’t hacking docker to run in ram all the time, and wasting your ram hosting stuff it doesn’t need to

Kind of, but probably not. I started writing this and was like “totally it could be stateless”. Docker runs stateless, and I believe when it starts it is still stateless (or at least could be mounted on a ramdrive) - but then I started thinking, and what about the images? Have to be downloaded and ran somewhere, and that’s going to eat ram quickly. So I amend to you don’t need it to be stateful, you could have an image like you talked about that is loaded every time (that’s essentially what kubernetes does), but you will still need space somewhere as scratch drive. A place docker will places images and temporary file systems while it’s running.

For state, check out docker’s volume backings here: https://docs.docker.com/engine/storage/volumes/. You could use nfs to another server as an example for your volumes. Your volumes would never need to be on your “app server”, but instead could be loaded via nfs from your storage server.

This is all nearing into kubernetes territory though. If you’re thinking about netboot and automatically starting containers, and handling stateless volumes and storing volumes in a way that are synced with a storage server… it might be time for kubernetes.

If you live in Manhattan, congrats, you’re doing better than the vast majority of the country financially. Even with dependents, you’re doing much much better.

I’m genuinely curious about whether it’s really slower than mass transit in NYC is.

There’s no way to know because no other cities in North America have one like NYC. No where has mass transit. I’m in Seattle, we have 2 (disconnected) light rail lines. Houston has 3 light rail lines for the entire city. LA has a metro that doesn’t even connect to the airport yet. You want to know why you’re being downvoted to hell? It’s because you live in the only place in the entire country with an actual, working metro service and you don’t want to ride it because it’s slightly dirty sometimes, or you might be forced to interact with other people. Let me tell you, I travel to NYC regularly, and I wish we had a metro system like yours. I sit in traffic for 1.5 hours each way to get to work, and I live 7 miles away from it. And Seattle has a “good” metro system compared to the vast majority of the country. Last time I was in New York I happily stepped over a pile of human shit to get on the train, and I still got across the city in less than 30 minutes. How many people here have to tell you, you have a golden ticket with your metro service, the ability to go anywhere in your city at any time for $2 and change, and you’re trying to convince all of us that it’s actually not that great.

Do you know what I’d give to not have to drive? To not have to get in a car every day to go to work? Even if it took longer? To not have to white-knuckle drive, to not have to maintain a vehicle, to not have to sit there day after day. A train would be a godsend, and we’re finally starting to get a working one in Seattle but we’re decades away from a system that can get me to more places than the Airport, downtown, or the university.

The most ironic thing is that the tax you’re paying is literally to improve the subway, to make it cleaner, safer, to finish the second avenue line, and for maintenance, but you probably still will convince yourself that it’s not worth it.

Move to Houston then where the city was designed for the car and you can drive in traffic every day and park in massive parking structures whenever you like. It’s a very odd opinion that you choose to live in the only city that focuses on people and mass transit in this country, and complain that one of the best things about it is the one thing that is unique. Go live in Texas if you like driving. Go live in LA and drive on the 5 where cars were at the center of their city planning. Sounds like your dream. You can have 20 lanes of constant traffic, 30 story tall parking garages, just like you dream of.

You see the problem with those cities is that everyone drives. It’s not a privilege to drive in those cities, it’s not reserved for those who can afford it, so everyone is forced to drive, and then all of a sudden cars are everywhere. You want your cake and eat it too. Maybe that’s why you’re upset about the tax, because that bar has been raised even higher now, and you may be under it. I guarantee the actual rich will be paying it easily.

I’m glad you mentioned that. It primarily targets congestion, but one of the real costs of congestion is pollution. They complain it’s not fair. Is it fair that people walking don’t get clean air because of constant congestion? Is it fair that they want to eat outside or take a walk and have to smell exhaust? It’s also a tax on you polluting

So you can really see how privileged you are then

Right?! I know several people in Manhattan (who are pretty well off tbh), and even they don’t own a car. Why would you in Manhattan?!? How privileged does this person have to be? People are unable to afford groceries right now and they’re complaining that they might have to pay a few bucks because they don’t want to take a train

You live in literally the best transit area in the entire nation. One of the best in the world.

Take Transit. You are lucky enough to be in one of the areas where you aren’t forced to drive. You are incredibly privileged to live there, and are able to take transit to pretty much wherever you like.

Plus it’s lower Manhattan. You said you live inside the congestion zone, which means lets be real, this is a drop in the bucket compared to actually driving there. Just your car you probably pay for storage, some of the highest gas in the country, and the highest insurance in the country, and you’re still complaining that there’s a slight tax now because you are choosing not to take the incredibly convenient, regular, and world renown subway system?

Wish I was friend, thought it was all single story white stone housing. We were told America is number one, never saw a skyline or how big it was.