• Ænima@lemm.ee
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        11 hours ago

        Sorry for the late reply. With the holidays and life, in general, I just didn’t find the time to get on the site, instead of the phone app, to write this up and I struggle to type via digital keyboards.


        When I say silent quitting life, I assume the reader knows the term silent quitting a job from the past pandemic era (at least that’s when I learned of it) where a worker who may have been gung-ho on their job in addition to innovating and advancing parts of it; who may have stayed late, working on tasks, or came in early without additional pay; are now doing just the minimum to keep their job. Silent quitting, as far as I know, is doing only what is required and nothing more, refusing to work extra for no pay, etc.

        So applying silent quitting a job to silent quitting life, is where I used to seek to improve myself and my immediate surroundings, I do the bare minimum to survive and keep the boat afloat, so to speak. I have lost interests in most hobbies, most interests, and rarely step outside of a daily routine of work, spending time with my wife/kid, and going to bed to repeat the same shit the next day. I just don’t see the point in continuing this system we currently exist in and hope, against all odds, that something drastic changes soon to make life worth living, again. It isn’t fair to my son or my wife.

        I used to hear about famous/wealthy people offing themselves when they have a life, money, a spouse, and children. It didn’t make sense to me back then. I didn’t understand how someone, who seemed to have everything someone might want, would see no point in continuing their life. I get it now and it scares me what the next, second 4(+) year term of a tRump administration will do to my mental health.

        I’ve since learned that this might be Passive SI. I don’t know what the future holds for myself or my family, but I don’t plan to do anything to harm myself. I just feel bad for my son. He was born into this world and since his birth (Dec. 2019), things have only seemed to become more glum. I have been seeing a therapist, been on anti-depressants/-anxiety meds, and tried to find anything to give myself a reason to go on, knowing this world was made for the 1% at the expense of the 99%, but it’s hard. So far, it’s just led to my wife and I going day-by-day. It’s not what I’d call living; it’s just surviving right now.

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          10 hours ago

          thank you for the reply. i have been doing the same for the last few years, i totally understand how you feel. i really hope that things improve but I’m not keeping my hopes up. only thing really keeping me going is my family and my dog. good luck to you and yours. ♡

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            9 hours ago

            Ditto and likewise. Here’s to hoping we both find something that soothe the internalized rage we collectively feel toward a system that was never made for us.

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      21 days ago

      @return2ozma@lemmy.world

      You deserve an explanation as to why your cross-post of this was removed from !AskUSA@Discuss.Online: that instance has higher standards (though not quite Beehaw level) and we try to keep things “welcoming”, thus we made our top community rule #1 to “be nice”. And I felt that coming out swinging calling the whole country a “hellhole” went against that rule. I see that that is the top rule in this community as well, but I suppose there are differences in interpretation as to what that means.

      Options from here: You may appeal to the head mod @m_f@discuss.online if you wish, as it does not strictly violate the rules of Discuss.Online itself. And/or you could re-phrase the title. Or you could even make a post asking for clarification of the rules/expectations - although note that this was already done recently and by far people seemed to express distaste for all the politics stuff, so we try to direct that to !politicaldiscussion@lemmy.world instead. I’ve posted there myself in the last week, almost made another post there yesterday as well, and I highly recommend that community for things such as this. In fact, their sidebar text says that they love such self-posts of commentary, as opposed to like “news”, and even “discussion of and disagreement about issues is encouraged!”

      So I get that you wanted to vent and discuss, and there absolutely are places to do that, I just wanted to protect the members of that community in particular from being constantly barraged with politics, bc as you seem to agree, dayum that shit gets old fast - it becomes overwhelming to so many of us to see all the BS that goes down almost daily now:-(. And maybe that’s one way that we can deal, by placing limits on how often we have to think about it each day:-).

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      22 days ago

      I wish so hard that I could believe. Just lie to myself forever, When you die it’s not like you find out…

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        22 days ago

        Your lizard brain is wired to avoid death, but non-existence shouldn’t be scary. You’ve already done it for possibly an infinite amount of time.

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        22 days ago

        In a universe where efverythingf is forever, energy and matter just take new forms never truly destroyed…

        Why the fuck is conciousness the exception

        Edit: That’s a serious question, and the only answer I can think of is “It isn’t, we just don’t know how to find conciousness when it leaves the body. Much as ancient main did not know of radiation nor how to find it, so he believed radioactive springs were cursed or blessed.”

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          You have to make a lot of assumptions for any of that to be true.

          Your consciousness is the sum of electrical signals and stored data. The same way that if you throw a computer into a fire the data is gone forever.

          The energy in your body is what continues on forever, not the data.
          There is no law of conservation of data. That is not a thing

          I see a large trend of people just completely rejecting reality for fantasies. I would love it if my consciousness continued on forever, but that is not the truth. There is zero evidence of this. When you dye your body will rot and the energy will be returned to the earth. I think that is more beautiful

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            12 days ago

            There is no glory or beauty in Oblivion, what you describe is not a fade to black, but a fade to invisible.

            Additionally your idea assumes that what makes me think and feel is the accumulation of data by itself.

            No matter how smart a computer gets, it’s not going to start thinking for itself. The rise of AI Hallucination has proved that.

            General AI will not be found until we can see the human soul in a microscope.

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              The human soul cannot be measured even in a human body… So why do you think it exists? You sound like someone who completely rejects science in favor of fairy tales that make them more able to go to sleep at night.

              Reality is harsh and cruel. Your ‘soul’ is just your consciousness, it disappears the second there is no energy to keep your brain alive. The second you die you are gone forever, the only thing that remains is your memory until those people die. Nature does not care about you, you have the same worth as a cockroach.

              All of these religious fairy tales are there to exploit your fear of death. They give you a fairy tale saying that death isn’t the end so you feel better about life. All you have to do is follow their rules 😂

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                You do know we can’t measure consciousness either right? But we still know it happens, it’s the only thing we can know for sure happens because we’re all experiencing it right now.

                We still don’t know a lot about how the brain works, and again, it’s pretty weird that this is universe that recycles everything except consciousness: Matter and energy cannot be destroyed, they only change form.

                Ever look into NDEs? Weird stuff, they thought it was just oxygen deprived hallucinations, but then they keep finding very specific and powerful brain activity after the patient is declared dead that suggests something is going on in a big way. Something much bigger than neurons randomly firing in an attempt to reignite the brain, the brain’s ignited like never before despite the fact that it should be dead. They also keep finding that Near Death Experiences are so damn universal that for the weird magic sounding stuff to be a hoax, then hundreds of thousands of people would have to have been in on it since the dawn of man.

                Never assume that science knows everything. Not because “Religion has all the answers”, but because science is not a religion, it’s not a big book that you can just find answers in. It’s an on-going process of questioning everything and then going “That’s funny, that shouldn’t be happening.” right before learning about a new set of questions to ask.

                It’s actually really beautiful.

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    Just here trying to create an emotional and practical safe zone for myself, family, and my friends, and fuck the rest of 'em