Every group chat seems to die the moment I send 1-2 texts there. Every single one. Old, new, offline friends, online friends, everywhere. What’s going on? Are my jokes bad? Have you ever experienced this? If yes, what was the issue you found out?
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Holy shit, the sociology of group chats is complex as fuck judging from these comments. I hate them too much to ever have stopped and wondered why I hate them.
My suggestion would echo Bukowski: Don’t try. It’s perfectly fine to only respond in the group chat when something needs to be coordinated. Everything else one on one communication is better for. And if you do feel like interacting, don’t force it. Silence is never wrong. On the contrary.
I don’t even do group chats for party invitations. I just text everyone individually. It’s a little more work but it’s so much nicer, as far as I’m concerned.
Then again, I was born in the 90s. I’m a grumpy old man and without a doubt out of thouch.
I was born in the 90s. I’m a grumpy old man
I feel my bones turning to dust reading this.
Since when is 35-24 old lmao
When it comes to digital communication, I think I might be a dinosaur. I have never used Discord or TikTok. My group chat experience as a teenager was on IRC.
Culturally I am also out of touch - I come from a time when young people were reliably progressive, and where there did not seem to be a huge political gender divide. I feel weirdly removed from those born ten years after me, who are now around 20.
Sure, I’m in a few group chats on WhatsApp and Facebook Messenger, and I know these situations in the abstract. But if OP is a teenager they probably come from a completely different world than I do.
I’m just not with it any more, you know. I wear an onion in my belt.
That said, I of course agree completely that I am the embodiment of youth in most aspects of life!
I don’t do group chats anymore because whatever I say gets unanswered, or replied to and buried in the conversation.
With friends we do video chat. Also seems in large group chats, there are often like 10 different parallel conversations going on and it is hard to keep track of. No one waits or treats it like an actual group discussion.
In my experience every chat group has a person that’s the glue. What I mean is sometimes unintentionally that group chat only reacts when the glue person(s) are engaging. So if you work out who that is in your group and have them engage with you, it’ll become lively.
Should we tell him, guys?..
Oh no…
Yes this right here officer.
Should we tell him, guys?..
this is not an appropriate time to make a cruel joke.
this person came here harmlessly asking for help.
punching down at someone’s insecurities right when they’re trying to address them is not ok.
I’m going to be honest and try not to be rude. This is only my observation from my perspective and may be wildly wrong. I looked through your comment history. You seem to be polite and communicative. That’s not a bad thing. However, your comments don’t seem very funny or interesting to me. I communicate through humor. I understand that it is subjective, but I’m not often in chats or conversations that awkwardly die out.
Show some more of your personality in what you say. Compliment others. Leave them with questions. Do you think maybe the answer to your question isn’t what you are saying, it’s how you are saying it?
Tough but honest advice. I can relate to needing this advice but I’ve come to accept who I am. People just like sincerity, too. Organic, not shoehorned comments. No compliment fishing, etc… The group you’re chatting with also just may not be your kind of people; you just may not have realized it yet.
Alternatively chat groups do spontaneously die and you may only be consciously aware when it’s you who commented last; but you may not be so aware of the chat groups that died with someone else’s comments.
